I have written about ‘stuff’ before and about decluttering. However, having a clear out is not a one time event, as we are constantly finding out.
I thought we were fairly good at not having too much stuff and had it under control. Then came two lots of ten day covid isolations (thank you schools!) with a 5 day gap in the middle! We have been unable to go out for nearly a month altogether. In that time, we have further evaluated things that matter and things that actually don’t matter as much as we thought. In house terms, what we value is the space to move around. In clothing terms, we value comfort, bright colours and being able to move freely. In terms of food, we prefer simplicity and home made/grown.
Going into these isolations Pigeon still had a lot of stuff even after previous clear outs. He now realises that he values his Lego most (apart from his cuddly toy pigeons) and having the space to create things with it. So of his own accord he has been sorting his possessions out. He keeps giving me things to sell on Ebay and bits for the charity shop; or even to gift to people that we know. Today we looked at his previously most prized possessions, his cuddly toys. At one point he had nearly 200 a couple of years ago; this fills me with horror to think of it now! Today he has decided to sell/pass on a whole box of them. Not a tear or tantrum in sight, compared to even a year ago that is miraculous! The less we have, the more we realise that we don’t need as much as we thought previously.
I feel guilty for burdening my boys with too much stuff in the past and allowing friends and family to do the same. I wish sometimes that I could go back and change things. But I can’t do that, so moving forward I have to make sure that I am more intentional in my gifts to my children. More experiences and less stuff. More time in nature, teaching them about the beauty of God and his creation. More daft memories like making a garden shelter out of tarpaulins and sleeping outside on a rainy night. Making hot chocolate in the garden for breakfast after camping out (see photo). More adventures like spending a day walking around the perimeter of our village and the town next to it (one I would advise on trying by the way to see your area in a whole new way).
Tomorrow we are allowed out again and we take some good lessons out with us.